LOVE..A Four Letter Word?

1 John 4:18 says, " There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. Whoever loves God, must also love his brother." Reading this verse tonight, something in me clicked. There is no fear in love. There is NO fear in Love. None. Zip. Nada. Fear is a scary thing. There are so many things in this world to fear. Fear of life, death, new beginnings, pasts, presents, people, so many things. But one thing we shouldn't fear is each other. I see it happening in our leadership areas. The people who are suppose to build us up as Christians and show us the "Christ-like" example are scared and fearful of their students. These people can't even bring problems up to their Christian brother. Rather, they would jeopardize someone's character, and future because they were scared. They had fear of the reaction that may come and the damage it may do to their ego. Where was the love in that situation? How is that loving your brother by not presenting your concerns to them? Doesn't the bible say that if we have a problem, or concern that we should present it to our brother before the sun falls, so that anger does not build in our hearts? So I guess my ultimate question is if true love comes from God, and if we have love we are of God, and that if we love God, we also love our brother, does that mean that if I am scared of my brother or how he or she may react to the problem or concern I have that I don't truly know and possess God's love? And personally, how can you lead people and be in a position where people look to you as the Christian example if you don't even know what God's love truly is? How are you truly suppose to love on the lost when you can't even love on the found? People treat love just like it is a four letter word and nothing more. It takes skill and risk to love someone. To truly except every part of their being to the point where you can be so honest with them that it hurts. In order to love my brother, I have to know my brother. I have to talk to him, and want to know him. Otherwise, who am I to judge anything about him and his struggle? Did you catch that? WHO am I to JUDGE that person's STRUGGLE when I don't know ANYTHING about it? If you didn't catch it, you are NO ONE.